My Daily Drama – Women Daily Drama Only!

I remember my middle school years.  I was transitioning from private school to the world of public school.  Wow, what a shocker that was!  I was an introvert and remember feeling like a spectator most of the time.  Students used curse words like it was normal, and I was amazed at how they would sneak to smoke cigarettes on campus or skip school.  I now find myself having to relive those days and am terrified because the students are not doing the same things as they did when I was in  school.  My daughter started middle school last week.  The transition from the safety of elementary school to middle school has been very nerve racking for both her and I.

During her last year in elementary school I heard so many horror stories from teachers and friends about how different middle school would be.  So many people have told me that many girls experiment sexually in the sixth and seventh grade and most loose their virginity by eighth grade.  One of my friends who works for the school board shared that a sixth grade girl offered oral sex in exchange for a muffin.  That story horrified me, first of all, that had better have been a REALLY good muffin. I can’t even imagine how that conversation started.  One of my co-workers mom was a school bus driver, she had to separate the boys and the girls on the bus for the very same reason.   I was not even close to thinking about having sex with anyone when I was eleven or twelve. What have we done to our children?  The children today are exposed to so much and are forced to be an adult so quickly.  Today my daughter told me that during the review of school rules no sexting was one of them.  Have we really evolved or has the use of computers and cell phones reduced us to a society that is really primitive and raw?

I have been fortunate enough to take my daughter to school and pick her up each day.  While the school has a dress code policy, I have seen the girls and what they wear.  I watch them as they cross the streets and see the grown men in their cars following these middle school students with their eyes.   I have to wonder what is going through the minds of the girls as they saunter across the street in tiny tees, short shorts, midriff bearing tanks. Do they at this age feel sexy?  Are they trying to look sexy?  If yes, then it is working because they are getting the attention of the GROSS men staring at them from their cars.  I also wonder, where are their parents did they not see you before you left the house?

Our society pushes the envelope whenever possible, TV shows are exposing so much more, movies that are PG13 really shouldn’t be, forget about music videos, they are like G rated porn. It is in the grocery store as you are waiting to check out on the front of magazines, topics like how to have the best orgasm, sex to keep your guy interested… there is a plethora of subjects for you too choose from.    As parents we have no choice but to explain it to our children earlier than we want to. I never thought I would be discussing oral sex, and condoms with my eleven year old daughter, but between her friends with older siblings and Media she is no stranger to sex, like it or not, it is what it is.  If I don’t arm her with knowledge, who will?

I have to hope and believe in my heart that I have raised my daughter the right way and trust that she sees her body as a gift and will not succumb to any kind of pressure to cheapen it.  I know that there are more stories like the ones above and am sure there will be more discussions to be had.  In the meantime, I hope that middle school will just be the next step in her learning career.  Hopefully she will get to be a kid for a little while longer.

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